Friday, June 9, 2017

Bed head

Buying furniture is stressful. Too stressful. I’ve driven across French-speaking Canada alone with no map, I’ve worked and taken graduate courses full-time, and I even watched a Vin Diesel movie once, which was perhaps the most arduous undertaking of all. And I would do it all again if it meant never having to buy another mattress.

When I walked into the furniture store last week it inspired flashbacks I thought were the sole domain of war veterans and the wrongfully imprisoned. The showrooms at these places sort of look like living rooms at first, which I suppose is to make them seem inviting. Take a closer look, though, and you notice that that there are way too many loveseats and the ottomans have spawned like tuna; everything is arranged artfully, but pointed toward nothing at all. It’s what a room would look like if 12 unfocused people with expensive taste all lived together in one of M.C. Escher’s optical illusion paintings. And there’s no TV. It’s disorienting.

In the midst of this confusion you’re expected to make an important commitment. Choosing a new mattress or recliner isn’t like buying a new T-shirt -- if you’re unhappy with it you can’t just re-wrap it and give it to your least favorite cousin at Christmas. You’re selecting at item that not only contributes to the aesthetic of your home, but is meant to support the weight of your body in a state of rest, meaning form and function have to converge with military precision. That’s a lot of pressure. Fail to do your homework and you risk getting stuck with a pricey lump of space-sucking uselessness, and warranty or no warranty, it’s going to be a hassle to make an exchange. It’s like choosing a spouse, only a La-Z-Boy doesn’t eat all your Fig Newtons without asking.

Mattress shopping is especially difficult, moreso when you’re a light sleeper with a mutinous back. You oftentimes don’t get a sense of how a mattress will treat you until you’ve spent a night or two lying on one, and yet when you’re at the furniture store you have perhaps 10 minutes to make a decision, 20 if you know how to flirt with the salesperson. (This trick has come in quite handy.) Condensing the selection process so dramatically is confounding to the senses; rather than lying on a bed in a state of sleepiness or relaxation, you’re forced to bring attentiveness and focus to the proceedings, which frankly is sort of a buzzkill. The only time you’re supposed to bring intense focus into the bedroom is if there’s an expensive dinner and formalwear involved.

So there I was, in the store’s sleep center, trying to decide how to spend my nights. What struck me were the options. There were way, way too many of them. Not so long ago in human history, beds were a simple thing: a bunch of feathers or horsehair stuffed into a person-sized bag and thrown on the floor like a rug. At least that’s what I imagine when I ponder such things, which is never.

How far we’ve come. Now there are traditional coil mattresses, memory foam mattresses, hybrid mattresses, mattresses that bend and recline, mattresses with cooling gel, mattresses that vibrate, and mattresses that have memorized the collected works of H.P. Lovecraft. We’re a few years away from having beds that shuffle cards and play the ukulele.

The only good strategy for making an informed choice is to spend some time on each one, which is a guaranteed way to look like an idiot. “It takes about 10 minutes to get an idea of how you’ll respond to a mattress,” the salesperson told me, and feeling the need to exercise diligence, I took her at her word. I hopped on the coil mattress first. Ten minutes later, the memory foam. Ten minutes after that, the hybrid. And on and on, until I’d lain on so many beds I felt like a world traveler, or a Frenchman. The sleep center ceiling has 75 eggshell-colored tiles, by the way. In case you were wondering.

Selecting the mattress was the most important step, but it wasn’t the last one. Sullen-looking, muscular men still had to deliver it, which is generally an awkward experience. Whenever heavy objects are being lifted and moved around, a certain masculine instinct kicks in -- you want to help out, to heave and grunt and sweat along with the other guys. But movers are professionals. They don’t need the help, and probably don’t want it. Which means I have to stand there with my hands in my pockets, nervously shifting my weight from foot to foot as I “supervise” their progress, saying things like “Yep, right there,” and “A little to the left.” Sometimes I’ll grunt approvingly as if I have some sort of hidden moving expertise, which I don’t, and they know I don’t. The whole thing is a charade, an act that’s meant to convey one message: I am not a dweeb. Except I am.

At least I’m a dweeb with a nice bed. The identities of our homes are forged as much by furniture as by the physical spaces themselves, so in a way, snagging the right piece can bring us a step closer to the mental image we have of ourselves. A loveseat cocked at just the right angle, an end table festooned with comforting bric-a-brac -- these things matter to us, superficial as they are, and so when the movers are gone and we’re left with our new purchase, a strange sense of peace prevails. It’s the kind of calm one rarely experiences outside of a remote monastery, one in which all the monks have taken a sacred vow of silence.

The best thing about bed-buying is that when it’s done, you have a place to crash. I plan on taking advantage. I’ve got a recliner that may need replacing soon, and I’m gonna need all the rest I can get.

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